Ya Love them, you hate them… but you’re going to have to do them anyway…
As you know, I am in my last semester of undergrad, have started grad classes, and am working part-time for a marketing agency. Needless to say, I’m really busy. I usually go right from work to my night classes without much of a break in between. It can get kind of tiring, but I’m trying my best to power through. I’m just trying to keep in mind that I’m (kinda) almost done.
Even though I’m still in school, I’m feeling a lot more adult this year than I have in the past. I definitely have a lot more responsibilities now on top of work and school. Though I’m only in my early 20s, I’m definitely starting to have to deal with more adult-like responsibilities, like cleaning a lot more, paying for more things and bigger things myself, and taking care of myself. It’s very hard to manage these responsibilities when your life is constantly on-the-go. I’m trying, believe me.
I’m not the only twenty-something year old who has to get used to having more responsibilities. I’m sure I’m also not the only one who has these thoughts about responsibilities.
It Kind of Sucks
Getting older and having more responsibilities is definitely an adjustment. I was extremely lucky as a kid because my parents did a lot for me. I didn’t have to worry about doing my own laundry. My parents were happy to spare $10 when I needed lunch money or change for gas. While I can still depend on my parents to help me out when I need it, I have recently had to start learning how to take on more of these responsibilities myself. With undergrad coming to a close, I feel like all of these adult-things are suddenly being thrown at me. The entire adjustment period sucks. It’s kind of like, “Wake up! You’re not a child anymore.” Now, I have to actually learn how to take care of myself without relying on my parents to do it for me. Yeah, it’s not always fun.
…But It’s Also Kind of Awesome
Having more responsibilities means you’re becoming more independent. It means you have more freedom to decide what you want to do and when you want to do it. If I want to blow $30 on a bar crawl where I’ll only be spending more money on drinks, I can do it. If I decide I want to dust my room at 3 in the morning, I can do that too (disclaimer: that has yet to happen. I have zero energy at 3 in the morning). Taking on more responsibilities and becoming more independent means fewer rules. I still live with my parents, so I have to abide by a few guidelines of the household. But, for the most part, I’m free to come, go, and do what I want as I please. Yeah, responsibilities can be annoying, but it does feel good to take them on myself instead of relying on my parents. It kind of makes you feel more powerful and makes you think, “I didn’t know I could do that on my own!”
It’s Not Easy
While taking on responsibilities can be fun at times, they’re not always easy. They’re definitely not easy in the beginning. Since my parents did a lot for me when I was a kid, I am having to learn how to deal with responsibilities on my own. I’ll confess: I didn’t really know how to do laundry until about a year ago. I would do it like once in a blue moon, and then I would, like, forget right after. Also, the financial responsibilities are still taking some getting used to.
There are a bunch of little responsibilities that we’re so used to our parents doing for us, like making doctor’s appointments and actually going to the doctor. I still don’t have the names, numbers, and addresses of most of my doctors in my phone. So, whenever I need to make an appointment, I usually just Google the doctor’s name and hope it comes up. Taking on new responsibilities is definitely a learning curve.
You Can Still Ask for Help
The good thing about being in my early 20s is that I’m old enough to take on new responsibilities but still young enough to ask for help when I need it. Our parents weren’t born knowing how to take on responsibilities. They had to learn too. They probably know exactly how we feel, and they are definitely willing to help us learn when things get tough. Think about it, our parents are happy we’re learning to take on responsibilities because that means they don’t have to do as much for us. It must be a breath of fresh air to them, and they will gladly teach us the tricks of the trade.
Don’t by any means see asking for help as a failure. Growing up is tough. Sometimes we need to ask for help in order to grow and learn. We can’t do everything right the first try.
Along with taking on responsibilities comes taking responsibility for what you do. Our generation, specifically, is very used to having our parents make excuses for us. Admit it, how many times has your mom or dad said, “If you don’t want to do blah blah, just blame it on me and say I wouldn’t let you go?” This was very nice of our parents to do for us when we were younger. It took a lot of pressure off of us. Now, it’s time for them to step back and let us take the reins. If we don’t want to do something, there’s no one else to place the blame on. The same goes for if we do something wrong. It’s our mistake, and we have to own up to it. This shows a great deal of maturity, and that’s really what growing up is all about.
Growing up can suck sometimes. It would be nice if we could just come home from work or school every day and not worry about the laundry or the dishes or the bills. Unfortunately, this is just the way it works. We have to embrace our responsibilities. They’re not all going to be bad. Embrace the difficult, annoying responsibilities with the same motivation and determination as you embrace the easy, fun responsibilities.
Get responsible, my Dolls!
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